Your child refuses to go to the bathroom? Discover where the fear of going to the WC comes from and how to fix it!
WHY DOES MY CHILD NEVER GO TO THE TOILETS?
Simply because to urinate or defecate, a child needs to feel safe. This is not always the case, especially at school, where children go to the corner in groups, at specific times (“Go, kids, we go to the bathroom before going back to school!”), or in an unknown place.
Some children are also “afraid” of having bowel movements, associating them with pain (after the first experience of constipation, for example). Remember that we are talking about a physiological need: the little ones, like the big ones, must be able to go to the bathroom when they want to: to go to the WC must not be a programmed exit and is not done in an emergency nor in a climate of tension.
HOW TO HELP IT RESOLVE?
First, by increasing its level of safety, which comes with the acceptance that going to the bathroom is a normal passage. If the child feels the need to relieve himself, urinate or defecate at home, he must be able to “carry that security” everywhere with him. With friends, in an unfamiliar place, one accompanies, one holds it … One favors reassuring words and the adequate material: a pot, a reducer. Don’ts: comments on his body, stool, odors, or try to get the saddle. Take the time to explain to your child that his body makes feces that must be evacuated.
If it is at school that the problem arises, you can touch two words to the mistress of your little one asking him to respect his dignity. She can offer to go to the toilet several times. If you are comfortable with this idea, let your toddler accompany you to the bathroom. He also learns by imitation. Last tip: do not scold him if an accident happens. Finally, if your child has a tendency to constipate, add more fiber to your diet.
Testimony of Mom ‘
At 2 and a half, my son was peeing in the bathroom. For the stool, it was something else … Nothing worked. One day, I asked him to stay with me while I cleaned his dirty panties … I do not know if that was the trigger, but from that day, there was no accident! Sabine, mother of Ulysses, 4 years and a half.